The first day's workshop was astonishing as an endless stream of young people poured through the door, ultimately filling the room beyond capacity. With something close to 90 participants, we were far too crowded for experiential exercises other than a sitting meditation, but the continual barrage of hands signaling enthusiastic questions drove the discussion.

The questions were excellent such as: How does Tantra work with oral sex? How can a man be multi-orgasmic? If a man practices voluntary ejaculation, would they still need to use birth control? You say Tantra encourages releasing goal orientation and also that Tantra is about a way of life and not just about sex. What does not having goal orientation mean in non-sexual areas? What does Tantra say about using drugs or other substances? How can Tantra work for two men? I have been tired of what feels like empty sex. How does Tantra give sex more meaning? I've been practicing self-pleasuring for a long time and I'm still not sure if I've had an orgasm. How can I tell? I hate it when certain parts of my body are touched and my boyfriend hates hugging? Can Tantra help us feel better about being touched in these areas?

This last question opened up a wonderful discussion on Tantra for healing. By simply resting a hand as close to the sensitized area as is tolerable, a willing friend may facilitate relaxation in that area. It is imperative that the person seeking healing feel deeply trusting that the friend is present with an attitude of being in service. The person seeking healing is the sole director of any changes in movement or pressure as they feel ready. Allowing for plenty of time is also important in supporting the body's ability to relax.